Ever meet someone and instantly feel inspired? The way they walk, talk, and everything in between just draws you to them? Well that happened to me about a year ago when I joined Uplift Concord, the Young Adult ministry with Concord Church in Dallas, TX. So I want you all to meet Jessica Ayers; my 2nd Sister With Vision….
Sooooo….Tell me a little about yourself.
Ha! That’s a loaded question. Let’s see…I’m a wildly, passionate creative spirit who enjoys living out loud. My goal in life is for someone to hear my story and either learn from my mistakes or to be encouraged by them. I will (and do) share some of the most intimate parts of my life with people in hopes that they are inspired and in turn decide to live the best versions of their lives, whatever that may be. The arts are like a drug to me. I’m insanely inspired by people and their creations. Whether it be spoken word, a song they wrote or them just going after their dreams. I draw strength from their passion and it is my hope that I return the gift.
I most definitely have and continue to do so. Life is an evolution of self, so I don’t think that there will ever be a point in my life that I’m not insecure about one thing or another. As you mature through time and experiences you are either freed from those insecurities or bound by them. The deciding factor is how you and/or who you choose to handle them. If I hadn’t made the choice to seek a relationship with God, I could never have been loosed from the grips of certain self-esteem issues. I was carrying around insecurities from my childhood like my height, my weight, my shoe size, etc. All of those things, I have no control over (well maybe my weight but that’s a whole nother battle). They are forever a part of me. However, after reading God’s word and recognizing the complexities and the beauty that goes into making the human body; it has helped me to not only repair my esteem but to be proud of who I am. Every lump, bump and curve. Knowing that my big feet are “beautifully and wonderfully made” helps in the self-love process. He chose everything from my DNA strands to the hair follicles on my head. Who am I to say He got it wrong? And if everything is working together for His good, then I know that who I am both physically and spiritually is serving a purpose greater than anything I could every perceive. With all of that said, I would be remiss if I didn’t say that I still have to make a concerted effort in choosing to love myself daily. I literally chant to myself every morning that I am beautiful. It helps. I even thought about being Mary Jane Paul and sticking post-it notes all over my house. LOL. The struggle is real.
What does being “Perfectly Imperfect” mean to you?
Perfectly imperfect means being the most authentic version of you. “Flaws” and all. Loving every inch of you. Your crooked teeth, your knocked knees, your lisp, your “nappy” hair. All of it. Imperfection is the most beautiful sight to see when you own it. I love to see a confident woman. She doesn’t have to be a 10 or be dressed a certain way or drive a certain car etc. Because the exterior is not the draw. It’s her soul. And you know when her soul’s right because it just radiates. It’s those times when you can’t put a finger on it; it’s just something about her. That is what I strive to be daily. So comfortable with who I am and in living my truth that I just become contagious. I want to infect people. I want them to be so affected by the God in me that they are never the same. Being perfectly imperfect means that you’ve allowed God to fill the voids. It’s a beautiful thing.
If you had the chance, what would be one thing you would tell a young girl dealing with low self esteem or insecurities?
1) Take every thought captive. What you think, is what you do, is who you are. Don’t let it get that far. 2) Spend time with God every chance you get. When you’re having those thoughts, call on him. It doesn’t have to be anything formal. Just talk to Him. He will answer. 3) Evaluate your circle and get a mentor. Someone who inspires you. Allow your mentor and your inner circle to pour into you. Let them know your weaknesses. Talk to them about your struggles because talking things out helps. The best form of ammunition for malnourished thoughts is alone time. Because when you’re alone and not talking to God…it’s as if you’ve stepped onto the devil’s playground. And he doesn’t play fair. Don’t let him win.
Anything else you would like to add?
Don’t ever let anybody else define you. You are not even who YOU think you are. You’re more than that. The only person who can define you is the one who created you. God. Do yourself a favor and get out of your own way. Let God do the driving. Be comfortable in the passenger seat of your life. Let God mold you into the woman you were born to be. You are beautiful. You are worth it. You can do it. Vigorously chase your dreams and allow failures to propel you into the greatest successes of your life. Be present in every moment. Surround yourself with beautiful souls and feed off of each other. We were not meant to do life alone. Live with purpose and live on purpose.
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