When Letting Go is Hard To Do 

Why is it so hard to let go of people that continues to cause you pain?

If you think about it, it’s more painful to hold on, than it is to let go. But time and time again, we find ourselves holding on to toxic relationships, marriages, friendships, even family members, when everything…every clue…every sign is pointing to you LETTING GO and walking away. So in this post, I’m going to explore why I feel it is hard to let go.

  1. You’re comfortable.

Making the decision to leave someone that you have been in a relationship with is not a comfortable feeling by far. Your entire lifestyle may have to change if you go forward with that decision. You realize that staying isn’t the hard part….getting up and leaving is. You may have to leave your home, friends, jobs, etc. There may be a whole bunch of changes that you have to make and you are just not ready for that. So you stick around..through the tears, the sad lonely night (even with them around), and you allow yourself to get sucked in deeper and deeper. Happiness is getting further and further away from your reality, but you can’t seem to find the strength to leave.

2. You don’t want to be alone.

Ok let’s be real. Let’s face it…NO ONE on God’s green Earth actually LIKES to be alone. I don’t think we are programmed to be. So the simple thought of leaving your boyfriend/girlfriend is unbearable. You don’t even think about how you feel NOW…You begin to ponder on how you THINK you will feel later. Lonely, miserable, inadequate, sad, disappointed, and did I mention LONELY?

3. You don’t believe you will find anyone “better”.

Someone make sense of this please. Explain to me what “better” is? I’ve been searching for the answer for a long time, because I know when I was with my ex…I felt the SAME. EXACT. WAY. Even through the lies, cheating, etc…I always felt that I had to stay with him because “I would never find anyone better.” But I realized that the reason I had that mentality is not because I didn’t feel like I would find anyone better…It’s because I didn’t truly believe and understand that I DESERVED better.

4. You simply just don’t know how to.

This is the simplest reason as to why people don’t let go. They don’t know how. They feel that it’s this intricate, scientific, mathematical equation as to how to do it. When really (as hard as it is) all you have to do is just GET UP AND LEAVE. You don’t owe anyone an explanation, you don’t have to turn and jump hoops…all you have to do it go. Again, it won’t be easy, by far. But you CAN DO IT.

So I’ve briefly examined some of the reasons why I feel it is difficult to let go…Talk to me friends. Let me know if you agree, disagree, or if you can add to my list. Lets talk! 🙂

Stay tuned Wednesday, October 14th when I discuss the reasons why I feel you should let go. As always, Thank you for your support! 🙂

With Love,

B

13 thoughts on “When Letting Go is Hard To Do 

  1. Stewanna says:

    I’ve always had this superman complex about myself I believe. I want to save everyone, and make them Better especially those that I have close personal relationships with. I refuse to let them go because I don’t want to see them fail, not when they depend on me., if that makes sense. Another problem I have is that I see potential and I’m like, “wait just a little while longer”, they’re going to change. So I’m sitting there waiting on them to change bc I see such greatness in them, not knowing I’m only stunting my growth by staying, trying to place a comma where God had already placed a period.

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    • Tana says:

      This is beautifully put and speaks to me so much. I feel the same way. I look at people and see so much potential, if I could just help them…

      I don’t realize I’m sinking my own ship in the process of trying to support them.

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    • bridgettereneeblair says:

      You just spoke my life! I agree with this 100%! My friends have to constantly tell me that I can NOT save the world even though I try to. So it’s definitely hard to let go when you have that mentality. But you said the perfect thing right there…”…Trying to place commas where God has already placed a period”! I almost let out a shout! Lol

      Like

  2. Tonya M says:

    letting go is hard because you begin to think about all that you’ve put in, what your gonna lose and what others are going to say….and you also stick around praying that things will change and the other person will come to realize they need you in their life….wrong it’s nothing but a fantasy and we’re Living in LA LA land….walking away is easier said then done but some times its,what’s best for you. …

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  3. keleneblake says:

    Great post! I particularly can identify with number 4 as I used to not know how to cut people off. I wanted to be able to do it without hurting feelings but that’s rarely possible. Number 2 is actually the opposite for me because I really liked being alone after coming out of a toxic relationship. It gave me time for self-care and growth. But I’m an introvert so spending time alone comes easily to me.

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